Infertility is unpredictable.
The emotions can hit you anytime, anywhere and can leave you in a heap on the kitchen floor.
These waves are painful.
They can feel numbing and when in this state you need time to just be, not rushed out.
In this moment you need someone to just sit with you on that kitchen floor.
To let yourself work through these feelings and process.
In fact, you don’t need anyone to say anything.
Sometimes you can’t even express how you are feeling… that’s ok.
You just need a hug and some time to be.
SO PLEASE, LET YOURSELF JUST BE, SWEET SISTER.
Looking at her, you wouldn’t know she has feelings of incredible loss.
Looking at her, you wouldn’t know she is paralyzed in fear.
Looking at her, you wouldn’t know she feels lost.
Looking at her, you wouldn’t know she feels anxiety.
Looking at her, you wouldn’t know she feels angry.
Looking at her, you wouldn’t know she is still terrified but fighting.
You wouldn’t ever guess she deals with all of these emotions daily. Behind her smile and ability to ‘just stay positive,’ is a terrified woman with #infertility. Sometimes she feels like she is invisible, with an invisible fight, experiencing invisible pain. Does anyone even notice or validate her struggle? She wants to be taken seriously, but until society acknowledges the anxiety, depression and stress of infertility, it will never be part of a very important conversation. And without more awareness, we can’t ever move forward to break the stigma, and ask for the help and support truly needed.
What does infertility anxiety, depression and stress look like to you?
Would it be a emotional and physical breakdown?
Would it be crying, yelling, not being able to get out of bed in the morning?
Would it be totally shutting down, refusing to see friends and family?
For some people, this is what it can be like, but for most this is not the case. It looks like you have your life together. You even look great, you invest in your health and always go the extra mile for family and friends, you attend social functions, you excel in your job, you travel, you have hobbies…
You learn to function at this level month after month, then months turn into years. At what cost to your mind, body and spirit?
With not speaking out about the harsh realities of Infertility, is the risk of people thinking it’s not real. And it is.
It is crippling some days. It is pain and loss on a level most can’t even imagine. It is starting over and over, until you feel you have hit rock bottom. Then mustering the courage and strength to start over again.
Sister fighting this way, you need to know, you are not invisible.
Your struggle is not invisible.
Your loss is not invisible.
Your pain is not invisible.
You are powerful and you are so very loved and valued. Finding a safe place to reach out and share your story, to get support and encouragement is key. Sharing your story and what you are feeling is healing and will help heal someone else.
Our community is always here with open arms and listening ears.
One day at a a time. Step by step.