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Some honest truths about the not so nice things…

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We Aren’t Used To Failing
This infertility thing is big blow. We are used to thriving so this is a blind side. We are so thankful and blessed in so many areas of our life. We are truly thankful for them. Believe me when I tell you, we’ve worked hard to get to every single one of them. We don’t want pity parties. We want understanding, not sad puppy dog eyes. Infertility is a part of our lives, but it is not all of who we are. So just ease up on the judgement, questioning and advice. Navigating this road takes immense strength and courage but we often don’t feel strong. We were not given a choice to be here but will fight like heck to get through it.

We Don’t Move On 
Infertility is extremely complex. We are forced to move on and try again but emotionally we are often not ready.  It has a way of tricking us into believing that bad outcomes will happen again, and again and even when we know that it’s not always the case, we will be terrified. When you experience loss/disappointment on this level, your safety net is ripped open and you live in constant fight or flight mode. Most of the time we don’t show it but it does come out in ways we are not always proud of. Please be (extra) gentle and give us some slack. We feel like we don’t have time. Time to heal. Time to wait. Time to see…

We Are Easily Overwhelmed and Triggered. (Can you blame us!)
If you reach out and we don’t respond right away, we’re not being rude, we’re trying to protect ourselves from endless triggers. We often live on a schedule set by Dr’s for different treatments. Going to appointments we don’t want to be at. Up way too early for any sane human being. Giving ourselves shots in crazy places on our body. Taking drugs that make us feel emotional and irrational. We are having uncomfortable procedures and talking about awkward situations on the daily. So, anything baby related will be a huge trigger right now. We are in between worlds…We are either freshly hurt or going in completely terrified. We’re trying to keep it all together and juggling 10k different things at once. It’s hard to put our self first so please don’t make us apologize for it. We need extra help and understanding right now. There we said it. So please,  don’t add extra pressure or guilt trips on us. Check in. Say hi, lend a hand, heart or ear.

We Are Aware of Our Irrational Thoughts And Hate Ourselves For It (Trust me)
We know all the stats and all our odds and remind our self to flip them around, to stay positive but that doesn’t stop us from fearing the wort case scenarios. The what ifs, that constantly play in our minds. Understand if we hate every pregnant woman around us. We know that these emotions are not always rational, but we don’t need to be reminded of it. We already beat our self up about it. Trust me. Just be on our team no matter what. Sometimes that means Team Bitter Betty and Jealous Jenny. Don’t leave us hangin!

We Want You To Just Imagine For A Second
We want nothing more than for people to try and imagine what it feel like for even a second. There are certain things that we’ll avoid altogether, like baby showers, birthdays, hanging out with pregnant friends. Don’t take it personally. It’s complicated, but basically we are happy for you but sad for us. So when you dismiss your blessing of a child or being pregnant, even for a second it makes us angry. You have to get that. We’re aware that if you’ve never experienced infertility than you can’t relate, but that shouldn’t stop you from being understanding and compassionate. Especially if you are blessed with children yourself. If not YOU to empathize with us, than who??

BONUS! We Appreciate Your Support So Much.  
Know that we appreciate you for taking the time to just be there and for sticking by us as we fight this hard road. Your love and support means more than we can even express. It is felt in those quite, sometimes darkest moments, when we feel the most alone. When we get the text from you that says “Hey! Just wanted to say hi and see how you are.” That is EVERYTHING. That makes this fight possible again tomorrow. That is what helps the most, so thank you. xo

Getting support and being part of a community that just get’s it, is the single most important thing you can do!

With our Mindful Fertility program, Pre-Conception Diet Makeover and private groups, we help inspire, support and connect sisters daily, from pre-conception to post baby.  We just launched our new all natural, organic fertility body care line called Bloom Essentials! Our community of support is the perfect accompaniment to fertility treatments and procedures you might be going through. Our sisterhood of support and guidance is tailored to those experiencing stress and anxiety related to infertility and related procedures such as IUI/IVF.

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Hey Sweet Mama To Be!

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Getting support and being part of a community that just get’s it, is the single most important thing you can do!

With our Mindful Fertility program, Pre-Conception Diet Makeover and private groups, we help inspire, support and connect sisters daily, from pre-conception to post baby.  We just launched our new all natural, organic fertility body care line called Bloom Essentials! Our community of support is the perfect accompaniment to fertility treatments and procedures you might be going through. Our sisterhood of support and guidance is tailored to those experiencing stress and anxiety related to infertility and related procedures such as IUI/IVF.

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Infertility makes you feel guilty.(But we won’t let it.)

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Getting support and being part of a community that just get’s it, is the single most important thing you can do!

With our Mindful Fertility program, Pre-Conception Diet Makeover and private groups, we help inspire, support and connect sisters daily, from pre-conception to post baby.  We just launched our new all natural, organic fertility body care line called Bloom Essentials! Our community of support is the perfect accompaniment to fertility treatments and procedures you might be going through. Our sisterhood of support and guidance is tailored to those experiencing stress and anxiety related to infertility and related procedures such as IUI/IVF.

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What in the world is Fertility Testing?

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Hormones are your fertility detectives

Ever wondered, “How the heck does my body know to get its period or release an egg into my fallopian tube during ovulation?” It’s not magic — it’s hormones. Hormones are chemical messengers in the body that are responsible for regulating its functions, including your monthly cycle and reproductive abilities. For example, luteinizing hormone (LH) causes an egg to be released from an ovarian follicle (where the eggs are housed) and into the fallopian tube. In other words, LH triggers ovulation. If your LH levels are low, it may be difficult to ovulate. If an egg doesn’t get released, there’s less of a chance it will meet and get fertilized by a sperm. Hence, spontaneous conception could be tough.

Modern Fertility offers a fertility testing kit that can be completed in the comfort of your home. All it takes is a simple finger prick to get access to the same physician-approved reports that break down up to nine fertility hormone levels. These are the exact same hormone tests you’d get from a clinic. The reports, which are presented in a user-friendly dashboard and written in a straightforward, non-medical way, also provide you with an age-specific interpretation of each hormone level and how this relates to fertility. If you have questions or need support, a licensed fertility nurse is just a call or email away.

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Taking a step back, let’s dig into the relationship between hormones and fertility. Why is getting them tested and tracking them over time relevant?

Here’s another example: Follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) is responsible for developing a number of ovarian follicles (which house your eggs) and ultimately maturing a single follicle and egg for ovulation during each monthly cycle. If your FSH levels are high, it may be a sign that your body is having to work extra hard to develop follicles and mature an egg. This can be a sign that your ovarian reserve (that term for the number of eggs left in your ovaries) is low.

One more for you: Did you know anti-mullerian hormone (AMH) is an even better predictor of ovarian reserve than both FSH and actually counting the number of eggs remaining in your ovaries via ultrasound? (The latter is known as an antral follicle count or AFC.) Getting this hormone tested, perhaps along with LH and FSH and pursuing an AFC, is a helpful biomarker for seeing an even clearer fertility picture.

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To maximize fertility, it’s helpful for certain hormones to be at optimal levels to keep your cycle and ovaries working as they should. This is why hormone testing is a critical part of fertility testing, regardless of whether you’re trying to conceive or not. But as we mentioned, fertility declines with age. Keeping a close eye on your hormone levels — the same way you would track your savings or cholesterol — lets you keep tabs on your fertility, perhaps alerting you to a red flag or giving you some peace of mind. This is why hormone testing is an ideal first step for those who aren’t ready to start a family but want one down the road.

Hormone testing is one method of fertility testing

It’s important to call out the other types of tests that shed light on your ability to naturally conceive.  After an initial consultation (which costs money — more on this in a bit), a fertility clinic will usually administer a physical exam, which might include a gynecological exam and an ultrasound. These can be used to determine your AFC and help detect physical barriers to fertility, like polycystic ovaries, large ovarian cysts, uterine shape and the thickness of its lining, or blocked fallopian tubes.

At the clinic, completing questionnaires and having conversations about your health history, lifestyle, and cycle can also reveal underlying fertility issues, like smoking, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), endometriosis and other diseases, or amenorrhea (an absence of a period).

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These clinics also recommend and perform the exact same hormone testing that Modern Fertility offers, but at a much steeper price. We called eight clinics in the San Francisco Bay area to understand how much hormone testing costs. Across the clinics, the initial consultation ranged from $225 to $1050. The cost of blood work ranged from about $800 to $1500, but this can depend on how many hormones are tested, if the clinic relies on a third party lab for testing, and how many tests the doctor recommends or requests. Assuming insurance or your employer doesn’t cover fertility testing, these are out-of-pocket costs.

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Meet Afton + Carly! They are changing the future of fertility testing.

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Carly and I set out to create a solution and empower women by building the company we wanted our friends, co-workers, and future daughters to use. Last year, we announced Modern Fertility: the first comprehensive hormone test you can take at home to get information about your fertility. The test includes data on your ovarian reserve, how your levels could affect egg freezing or IVF, menopause timing, and red flags you need to know about.

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Check out their BLOG for tons of great articles, interviews and info about fertility health + wellness!

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Curious what your fertility score might be?!

TRY IT OUT FOR FREE!

 

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We are proud that Modern Fertility is pushing fertility research forward, but we also know that research takes time, and women need more tools now. We hope to one day have a predictor of fertility––a crystal ball that can help us see and plan for the future. But until that day comes, women will arm themselves with data, and make the calls.

“All of this data is based on averages (and we are sure to make it clear—no woman is average!) but it serves as a (free), grounding foundation for understanding how fertility changes with age and hormone levels.”

– Afton Vechery, CEO and Co-founder, Modern Fertility