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You guys!!! I’m totally obsessed with the new website!! Have you visited missconceptioncoach.com yet? I designed it from scratch and I think it reflects who I am and what this community means perfectly!! 💕 please have a look and tell me what you think! Link in bio. Here’s a little sneak peak!!

I’m asking sweet friend... how are YOU feeling, dealing and healing today? ❤️ . . 𝑀𝓎 𝓇𝑜𝓁𝑒 𝒾𝓈 𝓉𝑜 𝒽𝑜𝓁𝒹 𝒶 𝓈𝓅𝒶𝒸𝑒 𝒻𝑜𝓇 𝒿𝓊𝓈𝓉 𝓎𝑜𝓊. 𝒯𝑜 𝒽𝑒𝓁𝓅 𝓎𝑜𝓊 𝒷𝒶𝒸𝓀 𝓉𝑜 𝒶 𝓅𝓁𝒶𝒸𝑒 𝑜𝒻 𝓈𝒶𝒻𝑒𝓉𝓎. 𝐼 𝒸𝒶𝓃’𝓉 𝒻𝒾𝓍 𝓎𝑜𝓊𝓇 𝓅𝓇𝑜𝒷𝓁𝑒𝓂𝓈 𝒷𝓊𝓉 𝐼 𝓌𝒾𝓁𝓁 𝓂𝒶𝓀𝑒 𝓈𝓊𝓇𝑒 𝓎𝑜𝓊 𝓃𝑒𝓋𝑒𝓇 𝒻𝒶𝒸𝑒 𝓉𝒽𝑒𝓂 𝒶𝓁𝑜𝓃𝑒. 𝐼’𝒹 𝓁𝑜𝓋𝑒 𝓉𝑜 𝒽𝑒𝓁𝓅 𝓈𝓊𝓅𝓅𝑜𝓇𝓉 𝓎𝑜𝓊 𝓉𝒽𝓇𝑜𝓊𝑔𝒽 𝓉𝒽𝒾𝓈. 𝐿𝒾𝓃𝓀 𝒾𝓃 𝓅𝓇𝑜𝒻𝒾𝓁𝑒! • “𝓨𝓸𝓾 𝓪𝓻𝓮 𝓷𝓸𝓽 𝓶𝓮𝓪𝓷𝓽 𝓽𝓸 𝓭𝓸 𝓽𝓱𝓲𝓼 𝓪𝓵𝓸𝓷𝓮.” • • #infertility #ttc #ttcsisters #ivf #miscarriage #infertilitysupport #infertilitytrauma #infertilityawareness #ivfcommunity #ttcsuport #1in8 #infertilitycounsellor

We as humans, we want to help don’t we? We don’t like seeing people we love in pain. It’s an uncomfortable place. We will sometimes resist the urge to even reach out because we ‘can’t make them feel better.’ We don’t see the value in that small action if someone we love is still hurting.... But support doesn't mean taking away someone's painful emotions. It means reminding them they don't have to feel them alone. So much comfort can come from just that single action. ❤️

Infertility is about beating the odds, not about improving your character.

We as a community need to start talking about the D word in infertility. Social media's need for 24/7 positivity is leaving less and less safe space to discuss infertility specific depression and anxiety due to trauma. More importantly, it doesn't allow for a healthy platform to acknowledge the daily courage that surviving this fight takes. It’s not ok to suffer silently. It’s not ok to get to a point of a breakdown. It’s not ok to think you have to be strong but give up yourself in the process. It’s not ok for anyone to expect you to be...including yourself. ❤️

👋🏼 lovely ladies! 💕 Thank you for all the wonderful questions this week. One that came up a lot was: “How do I stay more positive and feel stronger?” My answer is to always ask you, “what does positive & strong mean to you?” Positive doesn’t have to mean feeling 100% totally comfortable and confident about what’s next. Positive means finding a way to work through realistic outcomes and fears. To have faith that maybe this time can/will be different, even though it’s scary as heck to trust that again. That your odds are just as good as someone in the same boat as you... Strong is letting yourself feel all these intense scary emotions, then reminding yourself what you have already survived and done to get to this moment. You have already proven your strength! You can be scared and hopeful all at the same time. You can break down and get angry and still be strong. You can have new found hope and be realistic. That doesn’t make you negative or pessimistic. Being aware of when feelings start to spiral into negative self talk is key. We can ask ourself with compassion: Is this fact? Would I react to this the same way if I wasn’t this upset? Has this scenario ever played out differently? If I felt safe and comforted would I react differently? What do I truly need to feel safe and loved? Am I over reacting from pain trauma? You are doing amazing... I’m here reminding you in this very moment you are safe. Deep breath...❤️ Chiemi

It's 100% natural for our self-esteem to take a hit and for that to manifest into negative self talk. "Maybe I won't be a good mother." "Maybe it's my fault because I waited too long." "Maybe I should have been stronger." These thoughts can create a false narrative that since the trauma happened, we must have deserved or caused it and if we did, then all the this shame and self- doubt we feel is valid. But the truth is just because we think something doesn’t make it true. We have to keep reminding ourself that we can feel safe and do have control in our world. Stay connected to things and people who are emotionally healthy and open so you can hear and have mirrored back the parts of you that are true! ❤️

How can we expect people suffering to meet someone emotionally who is not suffering or experiencing trauma and grief? I’m always blown away at the lack of compassion some have towards someone clearly hurting and in pain...its always the person hurting who is left apologizing, which is even more heart breaking. Like they don’t have enough going on, now they have to feel guilty about getting upset?? When you are experiencing trauma from infertility and loss, it's not your job to try and meet people where they are. It's their job to meet you where you are. That means witnessing you in a state of grief, anger, confusion, sadness and often times unable to articulate your feelings and needs. Compassion is giving those hurting the space & grace to express their truth. If you can't give that level of empathy and grace to someone, you should not be part of their healing circle. ❤️

Strength is not measured by the ability to not let feelings come in. It’s seen in the ability to let them be felt. You were so strong today!!! ❤️ . • “𝓨𝓸𝓾 𝓪𝓻𝓮 𝓷𝓸𝓽 𝓶𝓮𝓪𝓷𝓽 𝓽𝓸 𝓭𝓸 𝓽𝓱𝓲𝓼 𝓪𝓵𝓸𝓷𝓮.” • • #infertility #ttc #ttcsisters #ivf #miscarriage #infertilitysupport #infertilitytrauma #infertilityawareness #ivfcommunity #ttcsuport #1in8 #infertilitycounsellor

It's as real as it gets. Speaking up for your needs right now is extra hard. Because not everyone is privy to your story. Not everyone understands your specific trauma. Not everyone sympathizes with compassion about your pain. So, how do you reclaim your power if you feel like you have to hide behind a mask? You lovingly change the narrative in your own heart. Validating your emotions and the need for special exceptions right now, is crucial.This truth doesn't make you weak, it makes you human. If we keep saying ‘it’s ok’ and ‘I’m ok’ we will never make space for the understanding and support we truly need. Who’s fed up with feeling this guilt? Who’s ready to say heck no!? Who’s ready to receive more? ❤️

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