There is no need to feel like you are a burden. You are not a burden to me.

In this world of fast paced, trending, instant, non stop, next day, move on and forgotten stories, I refuse to let yours be one of them. There is no need to rush out of this space of being. It’s life right now. Don’t feel ashamed of that. Sometimes full of heartbreak, pain and confusion. It’s overwhelming. There is no need to feel like you are a burden. You are not a burden to me. Your feelings matter and your loss matters. Your grief will not be buried in tomorrow’s post, or hurried away, lost in slides. Never questioned or lessened by time. You will have a loud, strong voice, so scream if you need to. Cry if you need to. You will be heard. You won’t be shhh’d.

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Your story is not pitied here. Your story is strength and valued with honour. Your story is part of a community of other women who are strong and resilient and deeply empathetic. Who understand you. Who honour where you need to be today. Who respect where you have been. Who will sit with you and never question or judge your emotions. We are each humbled by each other’s stories. We understand how exhausted you are. How much you sacrifice. How much of your time and energy you give every single day. And we can deeply understand how helpless you might feel at times. We are with you.
So be gentle on yourself. Stop beating yourself up about how you are feeling. About being quiet, sad, tired… You are not ‘too emotional.’ Sweet girl, remember the million times you had to be extra courageous even though you felt terrified? Remember all the times you had to talk yourself out of bed. Or to attend that social function. To go to work and see that colleague who triggers you. Remember all the times you stayed positive listening to the ‘advice’ from everyone trying to ‘help.’ How much energy that all took to stay calm and not loose your shit. Remember all the times you had to give the last bit of energy you could muster to someone else, because they needed you. How depleted you felt. Don’t ask why you are feeling this way, like it’s a failure.

My god you survived all that. My god be proud. Be proud. Rest. ❤️

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Getting support and being part of a community that just get’s it, is the single most important thing you can do!

With our Mindful Fertility program, Pre-Conception Diet Makeover and private groups, we help inspire, support and connect sisters daily, from pre-conception to post baby.  We just launched our new all natural, organic fertility body care line called Bloom Essentials!

Where does our grief fit it?

Dear Emby baby

We have words for the loss of a baby, such as miscarriage and still-born. 1st 2nd 3rd trimester technicalities, all very clinical and cold. Loss is loss. Pain is pain. Grieving the death of a life that was growing inside of you, a life that could have been, at any stage is…there are simply no words. None.
We don’t have a word for when someone goes through fertility treatment like IVF or IUI and it ‘fails’. The loss of that Emby Baby is just as real and painful and devastating. The added stress of these treatment plans, injections, procedures and on top of that, the monetary pressure, is unfathomable. Yet it’s done unselfishly out of love.
The love you have is instant, from the moment your Emby Baby is inside of you. But, how do you grieve when that Emby Baby stops growing? What do you do with the pain of your hopes and dreams slipping away? The pain of allowing yourself to be vulnerable again. The pain of promising yourself you wouldn’t get invested so early, but did because how could you not? You sit in shock and defeat, ready to give up, not because you want to, but because you can’t fathom loss on this level – again. Where does your support come from to get through this pain? Maybe half of the people in your life don’t even know what you have endured. Most won’t really understand and others, well you don’t want to share such personal feeling with. So you smile through your pain, pretending you are ok. One day mamma today and everyday I want you to know we see your loss. We validate your feelings. You have the right to mourn your precious Emby Baby. It’s not just a ‘failed cycle’ because the cells stopped dividing. (God can we stop making it about that.) He/she was your Emby Baby and I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m so sorry you had to endure all of that and are left with arms empty.
This Mother’s Day is extra hard…We will wrap our arms around you and hold you tight. You have a safe place to grieve. You have a community that get’s it, where you never have to hide or put on a fake smile. Let’s simply acknowledge each other this Sunday.

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Getting support and being part of a community that just get’s it, is the single most important thing you can do!

With our Mindful Fertility program, Pre-Conception Diet Makeover and private groups, we help inspire, support and connect sisters daily, from pre-conception to post baby.  We just launched our new all natural, organic fertility body care line called Bloom Essentials!

#NIAW UNFILTERED

#NIAW is about raising awareness about #infertility. We are choosing to share real emotional truths from real sisters sharing where they are right now. These words are #infertilityuncovered and 100% unfiltered. They aren’t shared to be pitied, fixed or felt sorry for. They may or may not offer inspiration or hope to everyone. They carry with them only the truth lived by each sister but felt by many. Reading them you might cry, get angry and feel deep empathy / respect for each individual story. They are unique and courageous, even though the sister sharing doesn’t always feel that way. This small place in a big scary infertility world will always be here for you. It will always be safe, and only for you. No grey areas or triggers. This space is for you and only YOU because YOU matter. How you feel matters to me.

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Getting support and being part of a community that just get’s it, is the single most important thing you can do!

With our Mindful Fertility program, Pre-Conception Diet Makeover and private groups, we help inspire, support and connect sisters daily, from pre-conception to post baby.  We just launched our new all natural, organic fertility body care line called Bloom Essentials!

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Our community of support is the perfect accompaniment to fertility treatments and procedures you might be going through. Our sisterhood of support and guidance is tailored to those experiencing stress and anxiety related to infertility and related procedures such as IUI/IVF.

 

 

Exciting new changes here!

Hi everyone! I thought I’d put my pen down for a minute and say a huge welcome to our new followers and a big thank you to all of you! I know it’s not easy, this path you are on, but together I promise it will feel like a softened one. I founded Miss.Conception Coach 4 years ago and use my website and various platforms as a community, to share infertility truths, peer support within private groups and offer a complimentary mindful fertility program. My mission has always been to be a safe, self reflective, non judgmental space where we can put names to tough emotions. Ones that sometimes we haven’t even said out loud or realized we are still processing . I hope every time you read my words they help you release some emotional weight.

I’m a mamma bear with a very, very protective heart. My bottom line has always been that to truly be a safe place you must remove all triggers. So this community t is a bit different than most. You won’t see pregnancy related stories, pregnant women, baby photos, pregnancy tests or inspirational ‘we beat infertility’ stories. That has been something that I have never wavered on…

I am not one of those accounts that has thousands of followers but only follows back 20. I believe in authentic connections. I want to follow YOU. I want to know about your life, your dog, see your vacation pics, know your partner and hear all about your daily life. I love when you reach out! I make it a habit to converse through private message or email, not on the public posts. I know how personal this is to you. This to me has always felt the most safe and authentic. I hope it does to you too.

I recently started a new health + wellness division line because I wanted to create all natural, organic, healthy products for women trying to conceive and going through treatment. God knows you deserve it most! I worked with fertility specialists, herbalists and most importantly listened to sisters in our own community. We heard you say you were tired of chemicals in your body products. We heard you ask why there were so many products for pregnant women and moms but nothing for women trying to conceive. We are the first and only all natural body care product line made specifically for preconception! Check us out here!

I feel like we are at a very exciting cross roads. I feel like it’s time to take what we have built together and take some next big steps. LIKE BIG STEPS!!! I’d love to hear your thoughts and ideas about what might be next? I have some pretty HUGE plans in the making! I’d love to take my pieces and turn them into a real live book. I’d love to be able to facilitate a program that encompasses our message and helps empower and support. I’d love to sit down face to face and start local groups here in the GVRD area (Vancouver, Canada). I’d love to partner with like minded individuals and organizations to make a real difference in the lives of our community. Giveaways, grants, products, you name it – all for you to enjoy! (I am VERY choosy when it comes to this. What I put my name to has to represent my core values and message 100%.) What I know for sure is what we have grown here together is real, it’s raw, it’s truth, it’s a promise, it’s a never ending friendship and unwavering support. It’s a commitment to always put your best interest first. I’m so excited for what we can do together and how we can reach even more sisters. I am so grateful and honored that you let me be a part of your healing, your pain and your comfort, if even in the tiniest of ways. It truly means the world to me. So please keep sharing your vulnerable truths, they are what keep me sharing my words.

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This Is Also Me. The One You Don’t See On My Instagram Feed.

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She remembers that day. It was a warm Summer afternoon and she had made plans weeks ago, to go out with her two closest friends. She was always hesitant to make plans because she just never knew how she would be feeling in the 2WW. She knew that getting out was good for her though. Although staying in and hiding from the world was what she usually did, obsessing about her symptoms and overthinking everything. She’s glad she decided to go because it was a day she needed more than anything. It felt good to be outside in the sun and catching up with everyone. Her two besties knew not to ask the dreaded questions… That if she wanted to share, she would. It was an unspoken understanding and being with people who totally get it was a nice mental break. She remembers seeing a couple with a baby in the parking lot when they got to the restaurant. It triggered her and she felt her stomach suddenly drop. She told herself to just enjoy her lunch and try to relax. She was sick of infertility inconveniencing her life. She let herself have some wine even though the whole time she drank it she felt guilty. When didn’t she feel guilty??? She knew that it wouldn’t do any harm, but it was just one more thing she would obsess over if this cycle didn’t work out. For a brief moment she felt relaxed. She let herself turn off reality for awhile. She listened to her friends talk about their lives, one with kids and one without and single. How different all their lives were, yet bonded together by years of friendship. They knew her before getting married and wanting to start a family. They knew her when she was that carefree, blissfully naive 20 something. They have been through so much together. Thank god for these two people she thought to herself with immense gratitude.

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She remembers taking the picture in the sunflower field beside the restaurant patio. It was busy full of people doing the same thing but for a split second it was just the three of them. SNAP. The perfect moment captured. But still underneath that smile lived fear and anxiety. Sometimes paralyzing her to the point of not wanting to get up and go to work, that makes her cry in her car, that stops her from answering her texts or phone calls or emails. That makes her mind race with a thousand what if’s. That feels like a constant loop being played over and over about dates, times, appointments, invoices, and coordinating schedules. Waiting for calls, returning calls and follow ups. Hoping for a break. Hoping for a miracle. Hoping for some answers. Most days she  pushes herself, hiding her feelings from everyone. She doesn’t want to be a burden and make a big deal about it. Everyone has their own life with their own issues. Nobody wants to hear someone complaining about the same thing all the time. So she kept it inside. She had many hats to wear and people depended on her. Sister, daughter, friend, wife. She couldn’t just give up. She has come to realize that you can never tell what someone is going through just from looking at them. That everyone is battling something they don’t talk about or share and how incredibly brave it is we all keep smiling even through that pain.


Getting support and being part of a community that just get’s it, is the single most important thing you can do!

With our Mindful Fertility program, Pre-Conception Diet Makeover and private groups, we help inspire, support and connect sisters daily, from pre-conception to post baby.  We just launched our new all natural, organic fertility body care line called Bloom Essentials! Our community of support is the perfect accompaniment to fertility treatments and procedures you might be going through. Our sisterhood of support and guidance is tailored to those experiencing stress and anxiety related to infertility and related procedures such as IUI/IVF.

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She’s not jealous, she’s just exhausted.

Sometimes it’s just hard to always be happy for everyone else. Sometimes it’s just hard to always be strong.

Sometimes there is a certain sting that’s felt from infertility. A sting from seeing smiles over flowing from those who have everything they ever wanted, while she is still fighting so hard. She thinks how nice it m

Getting support and being part of a community that just get’s it, is the single most important thing you can do!

With our Mindful Fertility program, Pre-Conception Diet Makeover and private groups, we help inspire, support and connect sisters daily, from pre-conception to post baby.  We just launched our new all natural, organic fertility body care line called Bloom Essentials! Our community of support is the perfect accompaniment to fertility treatments and procedures you might be going through. Our sisterhood of support and guidance is tailored to those experiencing stress and anxiety related to infertility and related procedures such as IUI/IVF.

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Let’s stop celebrating stories with messages that make us feel inadequate.

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Getting support and being part of a community that just get’s it, is the single most important thing you can do!

With our Mindful Fertility program, Pre-Conception Diet Makeover and private groups, we help inspire, support and connect sisters daily, from pre-conception to post baby.  We just launched our new all natural, organic fertility body care line called Bloom Essentials! Our community of support is the perfect accompaniment to fertility treatments and procedures you might be going through. Our sisterhood of support and guidance is tailored to those experiencing stress and anxiety related to infertility and related procedures such as IUI/IVF.

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