When a BFP does happen, you get the applause and congrats, an outpouring of love and support. But when it doesn’t happen, you have people who make you question why. Who make you feel guilty for perhaps not doing enough. Who make you question if you are enough. Instead of giving you support for everything you did do. Who make you question the one glass of wine you had or french fries you ate or maybe if you had only done more detoxing, acupuncture, yoga or took more vitamins. The truth is we don’t question pregnant women when their pregnancy becomes high risk, if they get gestational diabetes or pre eclampsia. We don’t put the ‘blame’ back on them. We see the situation as separate from them, something they can’t always control. Which allows for nurturing and empathy for what they have to endure. Women trying to conceive deserve this same understanding. Any complication they might have while trying to get pregnant, is not their fault. It’s nothing they did or didn’t do. They shouldn’t be left feeling like their bodies are failing or that they have control over the outcome if only they tried harder and did more. Women living in this 4 week increment deserve all the support and understanding in the world. They need reassurance that they are enough and have done enough. They don’t need to be left questioning their own bodies and choices they have made. We need to reassure them they DO know their own bodies best. We need to acknowledge the very important job that they are doing, often without an end in sight and with a for sure reward at the end. We need to acknowledge the strength AND courage it takes to continue fighting and remind them of their own. Because the ones who are fighting the hardest shouldn’t feel this invisible. 💕
Getting support and being part of a community that just get’s it, is the single most important thing you can do!
With our Mindful Fertility program, Pre-Conception Diet Makeover and private groups, we help inspire, support and connect sisters daily, from pre-conception to post baby. We just launched our new all natural, organic fertility body care line called Bloom Essentials! Our community of support is the perfect accompaniment to fertility treatments and procedures you might be going through. Our sisterhood of support and guidance is tailored to those experiencing stress and anxiety related to infertility and related procedures such as IUI/IVF.