Looking at her, you wouldn’t know she has feelings of incredible loss.
Looking at her, you wouldn’t know she is paralyzed in fear.
Looking at her, you wouldn’t know she is full of rage.
Looking at her, you wouldn’t know she feels helpless.
Looking at her, you wouldn’t know she wants to quit.
Looking at her, you wouldn’t know she cried this morning.
Looking at her, you wouldn’t know she is still grieving.
You wouldn’t ever guess she deals with all of these emotions daily. Behind her smile and ability to ‘just stay positive,’ is a terrified girl just struggling to keep her head above water. Looking at her, you wouldn’t know she has an invisible illness called Infertility. Sometimes she feels like she is an invisible girl, with an invisible illness, experiencing invisible pain. Does anyone even notice or validate her struggle? She wants to be taken seriously, but until society acknowledges the anxiety, depression and stress of Infertility, it will never be part of that important conversation. And without more awareness, we can’t ever move forward to break the stigma, and ask for the help and support truly needed.
What does Infertility anxiety, depression and stress look like to you? Would it be a mental and physical breakdown? Would it be crying, yelling, not being able to get out of bed in the morning? Would it be totally shutting down, refusing to see friends and family? For some people, this is what it can be like, but for most this is not the case. It looks like you have your life together. You even look great, you invest in your health and always go the extra mile for family and friends, you attend social functions, you excel in your job, you travel, you have hobbies…You learn to function at this level month after month, then months turn into years. At what cost to your mind, body and spirit? With not speaking out about the harsh realities of Infertility, is the risk of people thinking it’s not real. And it is. It is crippling most days. It is pain and loss on a level most can’t even imagine. It is starting over and over, until you feel you have hit rock bottom. Then mustering the courage and strength to start over again.
Sister fighting this way, you need to know, you are not invisible. Your struggle is not invisible. Your loss is not invisible. Your pain is not invisible. You are powerful and you are so very loved and valued. Finding a safe place to reach out and share you story, to get support and encouragement is key. Our community is always here with open arms and listening ears… No one should have to do this alone.
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