1. You do not have to be at rock bottom to receive support.
Remaining silent is how emotions fester and turn into something unmanageable, both mentally and physically. Dealing with Infertility is hard. Everyone needs help and support and people that just get it. Become part of a community. Sharing your story will inspire others!
2. Nobody will ever be able to understand exactly what you are going through.
Infertility experiences are extremely individualized, so sometimes you have to take what people say with a grain of salt. (Suggestions, eye roll) What helped them may not help you. It is also important to note, however, that even if someone doesn’t completely understand, they may be able to relate to some of your symptoms or experiences, which can make them a great form of support.
3. Talk about your experiences openly if you can.
You’ll be surprised by how many people you are secretly helping to feel less alone. You may even be surprised about how much talking about it helps you.
4. There is still a massive stigma around Infertility.
With this in mind, you have to recognize that many people will talk about it ignorantly and inappropriately and will not be empathetic or understanding to what you are going through. These people have not been provided with enough information (or the correct information). Don’t let this stop you from continuing to get support. Help educate and advocate!
5. Do not feel bad for communicating your needs while undergoing treatment or procedures or recovery.
If you break your arm and are unable to physically go to work, you receive a day off and you wouldn’t feel bad about it. Would you? So why do you feel guilty about your body when it comes to Infertility? Missing celebrations, dinners, weddings, vacations, birthdays, and showers…all ok. Don’t ever apologize for taking care of yourself. PERIOD. Self-care is a priority.