WE ALL START WITH A DIFFERENT BEGINNING. OUR ‘HOW WE GOT HERE’ STORY IS SIMILAR, BUT ALSO VERY UNIQUE. ONE THING WE ALL HAVE IN COMMON IS WE ARE ALL FIGHTING TO WIN A BATTLE.
YOUR PARTICULAR BATTLE IS CALLED INFERTILITY
I hope you give yourself a moment today to remember a time when you thought you’d never make it. Maybe it was just yesterday, maybe it was a month ago, maybe a year. I hope today you can remind yourself that you did survive. Because you are still here. You are a survivor. Maybe it changed you for the better. Maybe it got worse before it got better. Maybe you are in ‘the worse’ right now and can barely breathe it’s so bad. Maybe you are on a much needed break from it all. Maybe you have decided to move on.They say ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.’ Not always. Some things that don’t almost kill us can come so close that they are forever damaging. But can’t that be ok too? That is part of our story.
There is immense pride in this vulnerable place. To admit we are in pain, yet still fighting. It’s an uncomfortable place to share with others because people want to fix that, they want to fix us and take away that pain. Well, honesty about this pain is courage, it’s real and really its the things that almost do break us, that make us who we are. We survived and are still fighting.
I hope you know that you’ll never be the same again. You’ll never be the person you were before infertility and that’s ok. That’s so ok. You are a survivor.
At the end of the day, something moves you to choose happiness and search for peace. You choose the hardest thing and you don’t give up. You pursue the journey without being handed a single promise, a 100% or a for sure. That is courage.
You being here, that alone is THE BIG DEAL. That is what you should be proud of. That is what makes you a survivor already.
I hope you remember to be proud of yourself during each step along the way. In the courage to try, the pain, the loss and the vulnerable places. I hope you know that if you ever have to do it all again, the hard painful parts, you can, because you must and you won’t be alone. That is my promise to you.