It’s a fact – most fertility conversations end up addressing the frustrations, needs and desires of the woman. And to a certain extent, that’s fair enough. But let’s not forget about the guys in all this.
Certainly, ‘Wannabe Dad’ blogger Tom hasn’t forgotten. He’s the brains behind an honest, brave and attention-grabbing blog that is driving a mini-revolution in getting guys in the UK to open up about their infertility.
Updated regularly and encouraging comment and debate from any other men (or women) going through the many emotions of fertility and infertility, it addresses a number of topics in play, including physical examinations, media coverage of male infertility, how women are affected by male fertility, football, beer and even Jeremy Kyle!
Tom told us, “My aim is to try to get more people talking about male infertility. As a recent posting on the Fertility Road website proves, men feel ashamed. Not being able to conceive because of bad sperm leaves us feeling like we are not men at all, and I wanted to do something about that.
“Part of the problem is the perception in the media,” he continues. “Women have fertility problems, not men. How many times do you hear blokes boasting about having ‘super- swimmers’ or that other phrase I love, ‘I only have to look at my missus and she is pregnant!’
“It is this attitude that means men hide away and suffer in silence, but they don’t need to.
“My blog is a look at my journey. I am trying to be open and honest – with the aim of getting more people talking about it.”
Tom’s blog can be found at wannabedad.com
#WannabeDad – one man’s story of infertility and the challenges of trying to become a father
After a year of trying to conceive we both knew something was wrong. And it was. I have lazy sperm and very little of them.
This is tough to take as a man.
Men are meant to be able to father children – it is their role in the world isn’t it? To go forth and multiple?
The media would have you believe so. There is little information available for men like me and more importantly than that – no one is talking about it.
Men are alone. Infertility is very much seen as a woman’s problem, which is unfair on both sexes.
Follow my story here, as I talk honestly and openly about every detail of my fight to become a father.
From the scheduled sex to my tiny balls; the monthly emotional rollercoaster to dodgy porn and difficult questions. I’ll talk about it all. Even dangling my wife upside down naked, desperatley trying to give the little fella’s as much help as I can.
I promise to tell it all. In doing so, I hope to encourage others to share their stories. It is time we talked openly about male infertility and feel comfortable in doing so.
Please read, share and discuss – if you are having similar troubles, I promise you, you are most definitely not alone.